Thursday 08.29.13

"What'd you say about my mudda?"

“What’d you say about my muddah?”

Sugar Daddy
21-15-9
Deadlifts (225, 155#)
400m run after each round

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Super rare picture of Mike G with his shirt on. Save this one folks! It's going to be worth a boatload someday.

Super rare picture of Mike G with his shirt on. Save this one folks! It’s going to be worth a boatload someday.

Coaches Corner with Coach Heather

From the www.hbunfiltered.com VAULT (9/20/13):

Big shift from yesterday’s post.  I think it’s time we clean it up for a bit and prove that we actually are civilized humans with a heart…that just happen to fart and queef.  MAN, I canNOT belieeeeeve how hard it is to stay clean.  ANYways…
I was thinking the other day about how out of all the people in the entire world…everyone…I have more respect for my husband, Ben, than anyone else.
That’s a pretty loaded statement, because I am surrounded by very, very good people: my parents, my in-laws, incredible friends, amazing elite and world-class athletes, even my ex-husband is one of the most stand-up guys I know.  I am SO lucky to have this impressively long list.
But, truly, the one person that stands far above all the rest is the man I’m married to.  How lucky am I?  I ran into a woman who knows of Ben the other day, and ten minutes into the conversation, she says, “He really is too good to be true, huh?”  I thought about it for a second, and said, “In every way.”  I mean that.  He spends more time at CFNE than anyone else (well, Harry’s probably sabotaging that statement right now, but you get the point).  Ben is the most committed father I’ve ever known or known of.  He never, ever tries to cheat the system.  Anysystem.  I can’t remember the last time he said a bad word.  He cried once when he yelled at Jonah because he was so disappointed in himself.  Ben takes care of his employees as if they were his own children.
And, then there’s how Ben cares for me.  He gives me zero reason to ever be jealous of other women.  He helps clean up the kitchen at night so I can write for this blog…and, I don’t have to ask him to do it.  He never questions what I spend our money on.  He doesn’t mind AT ALL when I take off for a couple hours to hang out with the girls.  And, one of my favorite ways of knowing Ben cares for me is when I hear from other people about how he was talking about me to them.
All of this got me thinking about how while I’m lucky and all, I think this is how it actually should be, right?  I mean, you shouldn’t be settling for a place in your relationship where you don’t fully respect your significant other for the person they are.
But, just because you don’t completely feel that way about that person in your life, doesn’t mean you can’t get there with them.  If you’re really with the right person, the person you truly believe you were meant to be, you need to sort of lead by example.
Good people eventually follow good examples.  It just sort of happens that way.  Some people need more time than others, but it does happen.
I do believe that Ben cares for me so well in part because it is my mission to let him know he is cared for.  He knows how I think he is the most attractive man on the planet.  I try to bring him food at the gym because I know he works so hard all day that most days he never steps foot outside the gym door. I am very careful with our money because it’s just that: our money…not mine to spend as I wish.  I know it’s important for him to have time to hang out with the guys and go to Bruins and Patriots games whenever they invite him.  And, I never…ever…talk badly about this man.  Anyone that knows me knows how I feel about him.
We will occasionally read back over our wedding vows.  They remind us about how important all of this stuff is.  Respect is in there…for sure.

 

111 Comments

  1. Squeeze

    Well said Heather. True love and partnership is a beautiful thing. I too have this gift of an amazing spouse but many of my friends and family members do not. I think too often married people, through insecurity or selfishness, keep mental score of who has done more around the house, with the kids, etc. and this causes resentment and unhappiness. I once saw an interview with Ina Garten (the Barefoot Contessa on the Food Network) and she was asked her secret for being happily married for 40 years. Her response.. There’s no secret! I just want him to be happy and he wants me to be happy and so we do things to make that happen! It’s such a simple concept but she’s right….and it seems that these acts of kindness and appreciation are what you and Ben share.

  2. Wanting each other to be happy and doing everything you can to make that person happy.

    The end.

    Love, love LOVE this post.

    • these two continuously set the bar high, in every aspect of life. such great examples for all of us.

  3. great post Heather. (I love Ben too)

    Ben, do not take parenting advice from me and do not know the circumstances, but it is okay to raise your voice. ask anyone in the 5:30 am class.

    hamstring pull during sprints last night. trying to keep up with 7th graders during football practice. (how sad is that)

    deadlifts and running are out for me. see ya’ll when i am ready. peace.

    • Heal up Rich. I decided to prove to my 7th grade team last night that they weren’t truly giving it their full effort so I ran sprints with them… all of them… every group non-stop. I’ll admit I wanted to throw up and I’m happy everything is intact.

      • funny. we have a super fast kid on the team. my ego was the reason for the hammy.

    • Not sad, just sucks. Heal up quickly.

  4. Heather great words from a great woman. Rich bummer, heal up.

  5. Krystle

    Well said Heather. I just LOVE it when people say nice things to and about each other it makes me feel all warm inside! I don’t even go here. I just have a lot of feelings.

  6. Ashley R

    Great post Heather..and great timing. Somehow Bob and I hit our 20 year wedding anniversary yesterday!! There have been a lot of happy times, sad times and trying times but love, respect and patience got us there. That’s what it is all about!!!
    (ya..I know I was like 12 when I married him :)

  7. Colleen (OC)

    Ah, to be in love! Nice post Heather.

    Annie: 13:28. Last time I did this, I did 10-8-6-4-2 DUs. This time, I did 25-20-15-10-5 DUs (regular rep scheme for sit ups). Meh. Felt okay. By the end I was a hot mess. My DUs are still so ugly, even though I can get a lot more of them these days.

    Todd: Annie in 12:03, Rx.

    • Colleen (OC)

      PS- the train to work felt like a 5:30 am class with Eddie and Lisa B on the train!

  8. Sugar Daddy: 8:00 (125#)

  9. Sugar Daddy: 7:13 Rx (00:16 PR)

  10. Heather V.

    Sugar Daddy: 7:33 Rx (42 second PR)

    • Awesome job!

    • Dave C.

      Huge PR. Could feel you breathing down my neck the entire time. Thanks for the extra motivation!

      • And for the record, that was me breathing down your neck for the first two rounds. I was trying to breath gently…I thought if I freaked you out you might slow down. Didn’t work.

  11. Annmarie

    Sugar Daddy 9:41 115#DL, :30 slower than last time at same weight

    Great post Heather!

  12. 7:41 Rx…enjoyed chasing Heather and Dave (mostly Dave)

    5×1 OTM sq clean & jerk @ 205

    2×2 front squat at 245

  13. Mike R.

    Sugar Daddy: 7:46 (185#)

  14. Sugar Daddy – 10:11 Rx. First attempt at this bad boy.

    5×1 C&Js – 135#

  15. Sugar Daddy: 8:41 (165#) Back sore from earlier in the week so went light and left ego at the door. Concentrating on form, which is slowly getting better.

    Great words Heather!

  16. 6:08rx

  17. Amy Brooks

    Sugar Daddy: 9:33 (135#, rowed last 2 rounds)

    Modified due to tight back and an annoying Achilles.

  18. Sugar Daddy: 9:12 (155#); 37 sec PR & 20 lbs heavier

  19. Sarah Wilson

    Sugar Daddy: 7:30 at 135#. Thanks for instructions on form pre-WOD, Harry & Kevin. It helped in the first and second set of DL’s for sure. I think it all went out the window on those last 9 lifts. Next time, I’m doing this RX.

  20. Sugar Daddy 10:22 (165#) 30#pr

  21. Sugar Daddy: 7:08 RX

    (3:37 PR – from June ’12)

  22. 7:18.8 Rx (the 0.8 seconds represents the 0.4 seconds that Mike G beat me to the door).

    I will have dreams of a hand slapping the wall in front of me for a while. I actually think he had the bird out while he was slapping the door too. I still can’t believe Ben didn’t shout at me as Mike was coming up after me! Memo to self…run hard to the very end.

    Btw, nice job Ali G!

  23. katrina

    Sugar daddy: 9:54RX (pr :30)

  24. Laura c

    SD: 9:30 110#
    Like 50# heavier (long time ago and was hurt I think) but 1:15 slower. ALL time on the bar. I’m justNOT a fast runner BUT I CAN run and I GET TO run

  25. 5×1 Squat Clean and Jerk: 215
    2×2 Front Squat 225
    Sugar Daddy 8:07Rx

    Way to get after it 6:30amr’s!!!

  26. Great post Heather!

    SD – 10:44 (185#) Deadlifts continue to be a demon in my head. However, Ben had a great insight today that is sure to change it! Also, thanks to Derek for some great tips on my cleans and snatches today… made a HUGE difference.

    5×1 C&J OTM at 190#.

  27. SD: 8:12 Rx 15#pr & :46 faster
    Rachel – Great advice this AM!

  28. Sugar Daddy: 7:10 Rx

    Mixed it up this morning and worked out with the 8:30 crew. Always a good time!

  29. Sugar Daddy: 9:01 105# first time doing this one!

  30. Kevin C.

    Sugar Daddy: 6:33Rx

    Val: 7:18 (105#)
    Julien: 9:20 (135#)
    Al: 10:30 (175#)

    Thanks to Ben, The whole family agreed that we were out of our comfort zones!

  31. Sugar Daddy: 8:41 225# (row)

  32. ECizzle

    Love you Heath & Ben! xoxo

  33. michelle

    Sugar Daddy: 7:58- first round rx, then subbed 25 hrpu for runs- smart sub- tks ben
    5 x 1 c & j: 110

  34. 6:39 rx. Great time with the 6:30 class!

  35. Hey everyone – Need to sell 2 Red Sox tix for this Saturday night, the 31st. Great seats, 1st base side. Email me at k.langen@comcast.net if you’re interested.

  36. sugar daddy:12:04 135#

  37. Sugar Daddy
    8:24 – 95#

  38. Susan Celli (Subie)

    Sugar Daddy – 8:37 – 125#

  39. Melinda

    Sugar Daddy: 7:33 rx

    C/J OTM 5×1 @ 115#

  40. michelle

    Need Hand Protectors? Ashley is taking order tonight for tomorrow only! $4 a pair
    I’ll be at the 8:30am and will bring them with me. Please post or email me by 9 tonight if you would like a pair!

  41. Sugar Daddy: 8:14 (105#)

  42. Big Bri

    “Sugar Daddy” – 7:20 Rx’d

  43. Sugar daddy: 10:17 (145)

  44. Nicole D

    Sugar Daddy: 8:19 (115#)

  45. Maureen B.

    Sugar Daddy: 8:14 (115#)

    Then some 5×1 C&J’s with some hotties in the back room to some old school hip hop <3

  46. sugar daddy
    8:45 Rx

  47. 9:50 (155#, row)

  48. Christian

    7:19 rx – pr not sure how much

    3×20 GHDSU

  49. Sugar daddy- 8:06 RX.
    LOVE this wod. LOVED 6:30 sassy class tonight!

    Great post Heather! In every relationship we hope to get back what we put in. It’s wonderful to see the equally supportive and nurturing partnership you two have. There is hope. :)

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